Saturday, January 31, 2009

Love and Relationships

It has been entirely too long since I have wrote on here. Somewhere from my transition to New Jersey from Atlanta I lost my love of blogging. How sad, but I am a mobile blogger now so maybe I'll write more now haha!! Onto other new news however, I'm on another blog. Vicky Sec's blog...and I will be adding the Love and Relationships aspects coincidentally. Little 'ol me!!! Coonery!! But I love it, why cause I love love...and despite my turbulent past I'm still intrigued by it. So yeah, kudos to Vicky. Now you have to blogs to visit...and more of me...YAY!!!

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Wednesday, January 14, 2009


It's been a little minute since I've been on here. I'm in the middle of my road trip to Atlanta to retrieve my things from school and now I am reporting from the Grandmother's house where food is always good. Yum!!! But anyway, I left Atlanta last night...I wasn't ready to go and neither was Brittany lol...but we had to press on. I'm going to miss Spelman oh so much. However, I can't let it get me down, I must keep pressing on. I didn't take any pictures while I was down here (bummer), but I had oodles of fun and got a chance to say goodbye to everyone (well almost everyone). Tomorrow I'll be back in Jersey and that's when business will resume. My break has been grand...but I can't be a bum forever. How will I shop if I am a bum? Great. I'll be back on tomorrow hopefully to fill you in with the rest of the roadtrip...maybe I'll even provide a pick. Smoochez!!!

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

BITCH (Borrowed)

Let me start by saying...THIS ENTIRE BLOG IS FROM LATEBOOTS. Vicky Sec's put me on game to this dude (and the Morehouse bro after the photoshoot...HAHA), MARQUIS PHIFER and SHAM (can't not mention her...she's so gorgeous I love her lol) are extremely talented. But, yeah I visit the blog daily and I ran across this today, and fell in love with the blog all over again. GREAT!! This is what I live explanation of myself. I love reading stuff that reminds me of myself haha. Very egotistical I know...but nonetheless it's a good read...even if it wasn't about me!!


The definition of unforgettably sexy: A woman who can function on her own and take care of herself. She won't let me always have the upper hand. And, she can tell anyone to go jump in the lake whenever she feels like it.

That's the woman he'll work harder to be with. Whenever you are too worried about someone else's approval, that person loses respect for you. When a man sees you knocking yourself out from the jump start, you are setting yourself up for a lopsided relationship, because you reinforce every guy's unspoken belief: “If you ignore her, she'll seek your validation and reassurance.” Approval then becomes his only “contribution.” When you need his approval, it blinds you and you quickly become the vulnerable one in the relationship. Adopt the philosophy of “approval neither desired nor required.”

After all, there will always be someone there to tell you that you aren’t attractive enough, perfect enough, or that you didn't come from the right side of the tracks. True confidence is born when you...

Just because a man sleeps with you doesn't mean he's thinking about the future. For him to think about forever, there has to be something he respects within you. Like a strong wit ... and a strong mind.

Relationship Principle 1
In romance, there's nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is.

Relationship Principle 2
He marries the woman who won't lay down like linoleum.

This brings us to the definition of a marrying bitch — aka a strong, spirited woman who can stand up for herself. The bitch is not rude or abrasive because she's smart enough to know that being considerate is more effective. But she won't compromise herself to be in a relationship. She won't work overtime to “catch a husband.” Because of this, he doesn't classify her as a mindless woman he can take advantage of. She has a certain moxie about her. Sugar and spice ... and not always so nice — that's what his dreams are made of.

Since many “nice” women mistakenly believe that being a strong woman (aka a bitch) is a bad thing, let's explore some of the criteria of the so-called eligible woman. Then we'll find out from men what they really think about women who behave this way. When a man meets a woman who seems too perfect, too sweet, or too agreeable, he tends to become bored very quickly.

So let's try to apply this Barbie-like behavior to a first date to see why it goes over like a lead balloon. Picture a woman trying to be that “perfect girl.” She walks into the room like she's on a catwalk. The handbag matches the shoe button. She giggles on cue. For dinner, she orders two olives with low-cal dressing (on the side). Without realizing it, this woman has already marked herself: temporary. In his mind? “Deposit and go.” He may have sex with her, but from there on it’s a downhill slide. Why?

When she’s artificial, he becomes wary of who she really is and what her real motivations are. Usually, he figures she’s putting on a show to trap him. So it never goes to the next level. This is why some relationships never shift into second gear. By trying to be something she’s not, the woman automatically gets marked with the “insecure” stamp. “This one will need constant attention and nothing I give will ever be enough. She'll sap me of all my energy.” Before he’s spent any time with her, he is mentally on to the next.

Not only this, but when a man thinks a woman is weak or insecure, he won’t feel the need to work at the relationship. It becomes “male entertainment” at that point. The relationship becomes a sideshow. He'll kick back, crack a beer, and think, “She's trying so hard, I'll never have to break a sweat in this relationship.”

In simple terms, ladies, be that BITCH.

Monday, January 5, 2009

Summer Summer Summertime...

Well not really..but since it was a whopping 48 degrees today MiMi and I decided to wash Mahogany and Onyx. By hand of course! So there we were washing and slaving and looking like two assholes in front of my house. Freezing and getting wet and stuff. (Man I need some of that real green tea haha!!) So we finished washing the car and decided we would let the cars air dry. Bad idea world! Streaks, and water spots, and all that ugly business. It looked horrible our cars looked ashy lol. So then I proceeded to wax mine, and Onyx was put into critical condition. Sad, and defeated we decided to just clean the insides ourselves, and then proceed to the car wash and pay our five dollars so it could be done proffessionally. Those Hispanics wash the cars so nicely. I genuinely love them, they are always there when I need them to save the day. I hate a dirty car...ask anyone who has ever been it...something has to be going down if Onyx is dirty!!
Today has taught me that I am only good at domestic chores. When I become a wonderful wife I'll cook my ass off, keep a clean ass hosue, and wash clothes so that my house always smells like clean laundry. You want a plant I'll make you a garden. You can get ALL of that but don't ask me to wash my car...even tho I still might hrow on a bathing suit and look like I'm doing something productive in the actual summertime. So yeah, car washing, raking leaves, shoveling snow, mowing lawns...NOT for Jasmine!!! I shall excel in other things that are more important...cause everything that I just named I will def hire someone to do it in the future. GREAT!!!

Thursday, January 1, 2009

New Year's Eve (Uhhh I Don't Know)

Happy New Year's everyone!! 2009 is here and I'm so excited. Why? I really don't know I just love new things lol. They're so untouched and clean and stuff.
For the first time I counted the ball down outside of church. (Should I be proud of that...IDK!!) But anywayz I was and I had a little adrenaline rush as I counted down. I brought in the New Year with my best friend MiMi, and my sister Tina..loves!!! I had a pretty chill night I must say, a few drinks nothing major, I was happy I looked real good (overdressed by attire...underdressed by temperature). It was COLD AS ICE outside. But, I worked it in my heels and little black dress. WORKED IT!!! After the 1st three minutes outside I didn't even feel my legs anymore. Haha!!! Beauty is pain (I really experienced that last night!)
My intended plans first...firstly was something entirely different shout out to Man!! But due to some miscommunication that party is for Friday haha. So I had to hurry and make other plans. Ike however, made plans and apparently got us into a club haha. You know how you hear a story, and in the back of your head you hear that little voice that goes "this is too good to be true". Yeah, I NEVER listen to that voice. So I go in to the city only to be switched to another location. A house party which I am really glad I ended up at anyway, there were drinks, music, people, good convo, and heat. HELL YEAH!!!
Besides bums harassing me in New York Penn Station, police acting like they don't serve the people cause they hungry and got pizzas to eat lol when I'm walking around about to stab the bum with my heel, walking all over Brooklyn through projects trying to find a subway, a stranger blowing kisses at me on the subway, and a host of other weird things that you get from being around other people, I had a WONDERFUL night!!
I know I promised pictures but it was too cold, and I just didn't feel like it lol. I took maybe two and I'll put them up later...GREAT!!! Until then...I'm waiting for Friday, and I will be dressed for occasion, and temperature.